Falling in love with someone else is certainly a very pleasant thing. But there are various criteria that you need to consider before determining whether the person you love will definitely be your life partner or not, Beauties.
Here are tips for determining the right criteria for choosing a partner. Summarized from psychological research by Stephen J. Betchen quoted from the Psychology Today website, see the review.
1. About the Value or Values Possessed
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Whether your partner is ideal or not is certainly a subjective thing and cannot be generalized, yes, Beauties. But when you and your partner often discuss things and feel like you have the same values, maybe this man could be a consideration for your love life in the future.
For example, you both think about the importance of having a job that is promising but still fun to do. To make this happen in the midst of existing difficulties, you and your partner will complement and help each other in a healthy and respectful way.
Another value, when you and your partner consider that it is important to have a higher education, so that later you will have open-minded thoughts when educating your children. When there are similar values, it could be that your boyfriend is your future partner.
2. About Change and Adjustment
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You need to predict and consider how you will adapt to your partner's character. You can definitely observe this when traveling or on a date with your partner.
You need to get to know your partner, starting from their strengths and weaknesses, so that it is easy for you to adapt to your partner's character. Likewise, your partner needs to get to know you openly. One of them is daring to tell your partner the truth, including your past.
You also need to adapt to daily habits that will change. About sharing tasks, habits of waking hours and rest hours that require adjustments and other tolerances because you live together in one house, no longer alone.
Each of you can also share insights, provide ideas, talk and listen to each other so that you are ready for changes that may seem difficult at first, but because each other is willing to share, changes and adjustments in marriage are not scary things.
3. Division of Roles and Responsibilities in Family Life
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When living as a family, two different people become a team who complement each other in the household. You and your partner need to divide roles. This includes classic things like cleaning the house, work, and having children.
For example, you can ask your partner to help you in considering the maximum monthly expenditure, but in terms of determining the quality time schedule, you are more dominant.
Then, when you have children, you might provide more references about the type of good parenting style and continue to exchange ideas with your partner.
Of course, this division of roles needs to be balanced, Beauties and you can analyze this and take it into consideration when dating.
4. Be sensitive to recognizing each other's needs
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In your love life, Beauties don't only think about your own needs, but your partner's needs. When you know that your partner has a high need for work performance in the office, then you can give appropriate appreciation to the achievements your partner has achieved. For example, giving praise and recognizing or highlighting excellence or achievements that have been successfully scored.
Even if it fails, you know what your partner needs when he feels down. This can be a measure that you know your partner well enough. On the other hand, you can observe how your partner meets your needs and the extent to which he understands and knows you.
5. Openness and Honesty
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The presence of openness and honesty in a relationship is certainly very important. During the dating process, Beauties are obliged to pay attention to this. How comfortable and confident you are in telling stories to your partner. Then how open is your partner and speaks honestly to you in a relaxed and comfortable manner.
When you get a story that is honest and full of openness and you feel happy about it, of course a partner like that must be the choice that will make your relationship happy, because your happiness in love cannot be separated from honesty in a relationship, Beauties.
OK, Beauties, those were various tips for determining specific criteria in choosing a partner. Don't get trapped in the wrong choice, OK, Beauties! Good luck.
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