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#HiMother, I am a mother who has two toddlers. The age difference between my two children is only 1 year. Apart from taking care of the house and children, I also work odd jobs. Sometimes, I collect used items to sell to collectors.
I did everything because my husband hasn't wanted to work for almost 4 years. Various methods and family discussions have been carried out so that the husband wants to work. The reason is, the husband's condition is normal and does not have any congenital diseases or defects.
At first, my husband didn't work during the 2020 COVID-19 pandemic. At that time, I was also laid off from work. A few months after we were laid off, I was positively pregnant with our first child. Happy and sad because we both don't work.
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We don't have enough savings for delivery costs. But, I believe God will definitely make things easier for His servants. I also tried to apply for a job at a shop and thank God I was accepted even though I was pregnant.
This is very different from my husband, who has absolutely no initiative to look for work. Meanwhile, I, his pregnant wife, had to work hard to meet household needs. He just used the money to buy cigarettes!
After 7 months had passed, I asked permission to resign because my stomach was getting bigger and I couldn't stand for too long. In February, I gave birth to my first child with normal weight and healthy condition.
I am endlessly grateful because I was able to give birth normally (vaginally), without being charged a penny using BPJS. After our child was born, my husband still didn't take the initiative to look for work.
Pregnant with a second child
When my first child was 5 months old, I became pregnant again. Honestly, at that time I was really down and stressed. But in my heart, I have to get up! I tried working again at the previous shop and was finally accepted.
The shop owner is really kind and treats me like his own child. I don't mean to reveal disgrace, I'm telling you about this second pregnancy. I worked with my first child, from 6 am to 3 pm.
Every day, I feel like I've gotten used to this routine. Until our second child was born. The most painful thing at that time, I brought my first child to accompany the birth of his younger sibling because he was still breastfed.
Like before, my husband still doesn't want to look for work. Until we had a big fight and I just asked for a divorce. The reason is, apart from not wanting to work, he also often commits domestic violence (domestic violence).
He always threatened me if I forced him to get a divorce and told him to work. I felt like I was 'widowed' by my own husband, Mother.
Until now, the first child is 3 years old, the second child is 2 years old, I am still the backbone of the family. For the sake of my children, I am willing to feel bitterness, pain and pain, so that their needs are met.
I often pray, that I will always be healthy and have a long life so that I can continue to accompany my children until they grow up. I also hope that my husband is aware of his behavior and actions.
-Mrs NN, domicile is confidential-
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