Infidelity may be every couple’s nightmare. There is no single justifiable reason for having an affair. Because, cheating violates the commitment made when two people decide to be together in a relationship.
According to a study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, it was found that environmental factors can influence someone to have an affair.
Psychologist Gurit Birnbaum from the BaruchIvcher School of Psychology explained that an environment that gives the impression that cheating is normal can make people think there is nothing wrong if they also cheat.
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“A peer environment that gives the impression that infidelity is normal can make someone interested and consider having an affair,” said Birnbaum, who is the lead author of this study.
This kind of environment certainly makes couples feel uneasy. But, believe me that even if it happens, infidelity can never be hidden forever.
Signs of a husband cheating secretly
1. Change of habits
One of the most common signs of a cheating husband is a change in habits. A husband who is having an affair will usually start to change his habits, both in terms of appearance, behavior and activities.
For example, a husband who usually doesn’t pay much attention to his appearance suddenly becomes more diligent in taking care of himself. Or your husband, who usually doesn’t travel very often, suddenly leaves the house more often for whatever reason.
2. More protective of cell phones
A husband who is having an affair will usually become more protective of his cell phone. He will often lock his cell phone and not want to let his wife see it.
Apart from that, husbands who cheat will often hide their cell phones or cover the screen when their wives are around.
“Trust your instincts and face him. “Most women who are betrayed report that they saw these signs, but ignored them or simply explained them away,” said Danine Manette, professional investigator and author of Ultimate Betrayal: Recognizing, Uncovering and Dealing with Infidelity, reported by Woman’s Day.
3. Often lie
A husband who cheats will usually lie more often. He will often lie about where he is or what he is doing.
For example, a husband who is having an affair will often lie about his place of work or activities outside the home. Maybe you’ve caught it once and felt something was wrong.
4. Often angry
A husband who cheats will usually become angry more often. He will often get angry for no apparent reason, or get angry with his wife.
This is caused by feelings of guilt and anxiety experienced by a husband who is having an affair.
5. Often avoids and becomes difficult to contact when outside
A husband who cheats will usually avoid his wife more often. He will avoid serious conversations or intimacy with his wife.
This is because the husband who is having an affair feels uncomfortable being around his wife because he is afraid of being discovered.
6. Starting to be unable to be contacted when outside
If your partner is cheating, it is unlikely that he will answer your calls and reply to your messages. You may hear reasonable excuses such as they were in a meeting, driving, ran out of smartphone battery, or didn’t know you were calling.
If your husband cannot be contacted while working overtime or on a business trip, that could be a bad sign.
7. Suspicious circle of friends
A husband who cheats will usually have a suspicious circle of friends. He will often spend time with his new friends, who are usually friends of his affair.
Apart from that, a husband who is having an affair will also often spend time in places frequented by his mistress.
8. Changes in sleep patterns
Husbands who cheat will usually experience changes in sleep patterns. He will often sleep late or wake up in the middle of the night. This small change could be a sign that you need to pay attention to.
9. There are several unexplained withdrawals
Have you discovered new expenses from your husband that you can’t explain? Or when asked, your husband gets angry? This could be an indication that your husband is cheating.
An affair costs money, such as gifts, travel, wine and dinner, hotel rooms, and more. The costs of infidelity can add up very quickly.
If you see large cash purchases or evidence of purchases from places you have rarely or never visited before, that is not a good sign, Mother.
10. Often blames Mother
Fraudsters tend to rationalize their behavior (in their own minds). One way to do this is to blame Mother.
Your husband may tell himself that your appearance is not what it used to be or that you are not satisfying enough in the bedroom, or even not appreciating all the beautiful things the two of you have done.
Often, when the mother starts to get suspicious, the husband ends up being judgmental. If you suddenly feel like nothing is right or as if you are being pushed away, that could be a strong indication of infidelity.
Keep in mind that not all changes in habits are a sign of infidelity. However, if your husband experiences some of the characteristics above, it would be a good idea for you to start becoming suspicious and carry out further investigations.
Tips when you suspect your husband is cheating
If you believe that your husband is having an affair, there are several things you can do, namely:
Talk to your husband directly. This is the most effective way to find out the truth. Look for evidence of infidelity. Mothers can look for evidence of infidelity by checking their husband’s cellphone, tracking his whereabouts, or asking his friends. Consult a psychologist. A psychologist can help you understand your situation and provide appropriate advice.
Hopefully you and your partner will always be kept away from problems like this, OK?
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