Suara.com – Recently, the timeline has been shocked again by the development of the domestic violence case that befell Doctor Qory Ulfiyah Ramayanti. She reportedly plans to withdraw the report on the domestic violence (KDRT) case committed by her husband Willy Sulistio.
Doctor Qory wanted to take this decision because he still loved his husband. This was conveyed by the Head of Criminal Investigation Unit for the Bogor Police, AKP Teguh Kumara.
“(Want to withdraw the report) that’s right. Meanwhile, this is just a verbal submission to us. We saw and we communicated with Doctor Qory, this couple loves each other and yesterday the violence occurred because it was triggered by high emotions,” explained AKP Teguh, quoted from the YouTube channel tvOneNews, Monday. (20/11/2023).
While Doctor Qory reportedly will withdraw the report regarding the incident of domestic violence that happened to him, the Head of the Integrated Service Center for the Empowerment of Women and Children (P2TP2A) Euis Kurniasih revealed that the condition of the mother of three children is not yet stable.
Lesti Kejora Volume 2
Who would have thought that the news that Doctor Qory planned to withdraw the report would remind the public of a domestic violence case that had befallen a public figure. She is Lesti Kejora.
As is known, Lesti Kejora reported Rizky Billar for an alleged domestic violence case at the South Newsdelivers.com Metro Police on September 28 2022. In her report, the 23-year-old singer admitted that she was strangled and slammed by Rizky Billar. This happened because Rizky Billar became emotional after being caught cheating.
Head of Public Relations of Polda Metro Jaya, Kombas Endra Zulpan, said that the first time domestic violence occurred at 01:51 WIB when Rizky Billar tried to push and slam Lesti Kejora onto the mattress. Not only that, Lesti Kejora was also strangled by the neck.
Then domestic violence occurred a second time at 09:47 WIB when Lesti Kejora said goodbye to her parents’ house. Rizky Billar became emotional again so he committed domestic violence again on Lesti Kejora. For his actions, Rizky Billar was charged with Article 44 paragraph 1 of Republic of Indonesia Law Number 23 of 2004 concerning the Elimination of Domestic Violence with a penalty of 5 years.
After Rizky Billar was presented as a suspect in prison clothes and his status was about to be detained, Lesti Kejora went to the South Newsdelivers.com Metro Police. Lesti Kejora entered from the back door of the South Newsdelivers.com Metro Police and went straight into the elevator.
Lesti Kejora is said to have withdrawn the domestic violence report on Rizky Billar for the sake of the continuity of their household. This is stated in the peace agreement agreement between Rizky Billar and Lesti Kejora which both of them signed on Thursday (13/10/2022).
Similar to Lesti Kejora’s case, Doctor Qory’s plan also had its pros and cons. So what are the reasons why domestic violence victims forgive their perpetrators?
Reasons Why Domestic Violence Victims Forgive Perpetrators:
Referring to the conversation and domestic helpers page, here are the reasons why domestic violence victims forgive the perpetrator:
1. The fate of the child
For most domestic violence victims who already have children, the decision to separate from their partner is much more difficult because it will have an impact on the child.
They may also feel guilty because they are distancing their child from their parents, especially if their child is still growing. 2. Fear
Many victims of domestic violence still choose to live with their partners to prevent more serious conditions in the future. Previously, it was necessary to know that domestic violence can take the form of verbal acts.
So, they may have received threats (for example physical violence) before if they dared to leave their partner.
3. Feeling of love
Have you ever heard the term love is blind? So, this is one of the reasons why domestic violence victims forgive their perpetrators and hope that their relationship with their partner will improve.
Some people choose to stay and fix it. These efforts may be successful, but many also prove that love alone is not enough to maintain a relationship.
4. Decreased self-esteem
Some victims of domestic violence may believe they deserve the violence. This cannot be separated from self-esteem which may have been destroyed by their partner through verbal violence.
This then encourages domestic violence victims to remain silent about the treatment they receive
5. Stigma and shame
It is common knowledge that in cases of domestic violence, quite a few people view the victim as having contributed to this happening. So, when they leave their partner, they may experience a negative stigma from an environment that does not support them.