The inner child is a part of the human subconscious that can create emotional problems in a person throughout his life. The inner child can influence a person’s relationships with other people, reminding them of the pain of rejection or bullying, traumatic childhood experiences, and so on.
A child who as a child does not feel safe, loved, or acknowledged, aka has wounds in their inner child, when they grow up they will feel the wounds that remain with them throughout their life. Past or childhood wounds and trauma can greatly impact how adults view the world, themselves, and their relationships with others.
Quoted from Regain, the inner child is the part of us that is still too small to speak and too young to express the pain of our childhood in a way that can be understood by adults in general. The inner child is a valid thing and if left unchecked can cause serious problems in everyone’s adult life.
If not treated properly, old childhood injuries can cause a person to experience the signs below. Anything?
1. Always Feeling Guilty
Always feel guilty/Photo: Pexels/Monstera Production
Reporting from Kinder World, one sign that your inner child is still hurting is feelings of guilt and feelings of unworthiness. This is caused by your experience as a child, when you were often blamed by your parents, so you experienced low self-esteem and feelings of guilt that persisted into adulthood.
2. It’s Easy to Magnify Small Problems
It’s easy to magnify small problems/Photo: Pexels/Andrea Piacquadio
Quoted from LumoHealth, the next sign is an excessive reaction, such as being very angry when faced with a problem or experiencing a minor disturbance. Whether you have forgotten it or still remember it, the suffering in your childhood can leave an impression and does not rule out the possibility that you will suffer from mental and emotional problems so that you are easily angered by small things.
3. Not in harmony with the family
Not harmonious with family/Photo: Pexels/Cottonbro studio
This sign includes tension, discomfort, feeling rejected or excluded between you and your parents at home. Whatever problems occur, you always use the problems between you and your parents in your childhood as the trigger.
4. Difficult to Maintain Healthy Relationships
It’s difficult to maintain a healthy relationship/Photo: Pexels/Andrea Piacquadio
An indicator that your inner child is still influencing you is your inability to form and maintain stable, healthy and lasting relationships with new people or friends. This is characterized when you often lose friendships, break up relationships, or leave your job.
Depression/Photo: Pexels/Ekaterina Bolovtsova
An inner child that is still injured can also cause feelings of sadness, hopelessness, emptiness, anger, frustration over small things, sleep disturbances, anxiety or restlessness, feelings of worthlessness, and reduced appetite.
6. Deep Feelings of Anger
Deep feelings of anger/Photo: Pexels/Tima Miroshnichenko
Anger is a common response in people who have suffered trauma, abuse, or neglect. Such treatment can make a person feel betrayed and distrustful of others, so they may quickly become angry when they feel something is unfair. Venting anger can also be a way to deal with emotions and feelings of stress.
If you find yourself getting angry or frustrated easily, it may be a sign that you have unresolved emotional wounds from childhood that are still impacting your life.
7. Mental Health Problems
Mental health problems/Photo: Pexels/Engin Akyurt
Abuse, trauma, and neglect can also make a person more susceptible to various mental health problems including depression, anxiety, and PTSD.
It would be a good idea if you consult a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist if you start to feel fear and anxiety around certain people or situations, extreme mood swings, prolonged fatigue, difficulty concentrating, experiencing memory problems, and other emotional or mental discomfort.
Then, how to cure it?
How to heal a wounded inner child/Photo: Pexels/Andrea Piacquadio
There are four ways you can try to heal your childhood wounds, namely as follows:
Find a quiet place to practice breathing and clear your mind. Let you think about events that happened in the past and feel what emotions are present when you remember those events. Pay attention to how your body reacts and elicits emotions from those thoughts.
Try to let go of the past and forgive yourself for what happened to you. Admit your mistakes and realize that there are some things that are beyond your control to relieve the stress and anxiety that has weighed on your feelings all this time.
Make a Journal
Write in a journal about your thoughts and feelings. Writing can help you understand your current emotions and help you understand what your “childhood self” needs and wants.
Write a Letter to Your Childhood
Write down your feelings, thoughts, and how you acknowledged your pain in childhood and give ‘him’ the confidence that they don’t need to feel guilty for the pain they experienced. These letters are a way to nurture your inner child and give it a sense of security and love.
Want to be one of the readers who can take part in various exciting events at Beautynesia? Come on, join the Beautynesia reader community, B-Nation. How to REGISTER HERE!