Beauties, have you just gone through a breakup? If so, you don’t need to be someone who is sad or suffers for a long time after breaking up or losing your lover. There are still people like friends and family that you can rely on for love and stability.
Sometimes, remembering all the time and effort you put into the relationship, the many sacrifices you made, may make you sad, angry, or even hopeless. The key is, you need to remember that this lowest moment is the biggest opportunity for you to grow.
Here are some mantras to help you transition into a new phase and feel better after a breakup.
“Grief is Part of the Growth Process”
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Reporting from Mind Body Green, it is important to immediately let go of your feelings and move forward after a breakup. Punishing yourself for being sad is counterintuitive.
You have to feel your feelings to overcome them. First feel the sadness in your heart, then move forward feeling more relieved.
“I am not alone”
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Everyone will lose someone they love at some point. If this hasn’t happened to you yet, it will happen later.
This is part of your journey in discovering inner strength. You will find new friends, teachers, and people you can rely on along the way. Convince your heart that you will never be alone.
“I Can Only Control My Own Actions”
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So much sadness, anger, and hatred is caused by frustration that you can’t change the situation. But, you will never be able to do it. You cannot control the flow of life or other people’s decisions, including your partner.
What has happened in your relationship cannot be undone. All you can control is how you react to it and how you respond the next time you go through a hard time.
“There Is No Way to “Understand” Loss”
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Overthinking every detail in your relationship will only lead to more negative feelings. When exactly did the relationship change? Why did he change? What can I do better? Why don’t they love me anymore? What are they really thinking?
Questions like this will really disturb your peace. Though, you will never know the whole story. So, don’t make yourself dizzy when trying. It’s pretty useless.
“Every Relationship Must Come Before a Better Relationship”
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Sometimes, you develop a deep connection with someone when you haven’t healed emotionally. You are vulnerable and open to things you will never experience again. This feeling of euphoria is often something that cannot be imitated.
You may long for the feeling of happiness when you are in a relationship, but you don’t actually have it. You are no longer in that vulnerable place. You are much better off building your relationship from a healthy point of view.
In time, you will see that what a relationship taught you is what brought you to the relationship you were meant to have.
“Happiness is Always a Choice”
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You may have been very happy with someone at one time, but actually, no one can make you completely happy. You are the only person who chooses to be happy with that person. And you can choose to be happy again with someone else or without that person in your life.
“My Ability to Love is the Key to Happiness”
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It’s not someone else’s love that makes you happy. It is your ability to love that makes you happy.
Happiness does not depend on any particular person. It’s just that that person happens to be the recipient of your love. Just as you love that person, you will be able to feel love again with someone who truly appreciates and respects you.
Ready to get your happiness back after a breakup, Beauties?
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