In the family, Father’s position and role is very important and noble, Mother. In addition to earning a living, there are also several other roles of fathers in Islam and the Qur’an that should not be forgotten.
In the family structure, each member has their own position. A father’s position in the family is very important.
Apart from the father’s general presence in the family, the figure of the father also greatly influences the growth and development of children. Therefore, Father must take a role in parenting together with Mother.
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The role of the father in Islamic teachings
Citing from various sources, there are several roles of fathers that must be understood in Islamic teachings, mother. Here, Bubun helps summarize the series:
1. Educating children
Quoting from the book Introducing Children to Worship by Ummi Aghla, educating children is not only a role that must be carried out by mothers and schools. Educating children is also a role that fathers must take on in parenting.
“This does not mean that the task of educating children is only the mother’s responsibility. Fathers also have the same obligations. Because Islam has arranged the relationship between the two in a beautiful and complementary frame,” reads the explanation written in the book.
In educating children, it is best for mothers and fathers to support each other and play roles according to their functions. If one of the functions is damaged, the child can lose his identity.
The division of tasks in Islam is also clear. The role of the father cannot be ignored, although the role of the mother is also important in the child’s future.
This is also explained in the hadith narrated by At-Thabrani. Rasullah SAW explained that mothers and fathers must educate children in three things.
The Prophet Muhammad SAW said: “Educate your children with three things: love your Prophet; love his household; and read the Qur’an, because those who preserve the Qur’an will be in the circle of Allah’s throne on a day when there is no protection other than His protection; they are with His Prophets and holy people,” (At Thabrani).
2. Father as head of family
Another important role of the father in Islamic teachings that should not be missed is as the head of the family, Mother. According to the book The Features of the Father’s Role in Parenting by Indra Mulyana, this role is likened to the captain of a ship.
“The head of the family is likened to the captain of an ark that sails the sea of life, the captain is in control. Where the ark will go depends very much on him,” explains the book, published in 2022.
This is also reinforced in a verse of the Koran, Mother. It is explained that a man is obliged to lead his family.
The men are in charge of the women because God has favored some of them over others and because of what they spend of their wealth. So good deeds are sufficient for protection. For the unseen, as God has preserved. As for those whose disobedience you fear, admonish them, and leave them in their beds, and beat them, but if they obey you. So do not seek a way against them. Indeed, Allah is Most High, Great.
“Men (husbands) are responsible) for women (wives) because Allah has preferred some of them (men) over others (women) and because they (men) have spent part of their wealth. Women -Pious women are those who are obedient (to Allah) and take care of themselves when (their husbands) are not there because Allah has taken care of (them). The women you are worried about will be nusyuz,) give them advice, leave them in bed (separate beds) ), and (if necessary,) beat them (in a way that is not painful). However, if they obey you, do not look for ways to cause trouble to them. Indeed, Allah is Most High, Most Great.” (QS. An-Nisa: 34)
3. Family breadwinner
The father as provider is a definite role. The father is obliged to provide for the family and ensure that the sustenance he obtains is halal.
This is stated in the Al-Qur’an, surah al-Baqarah verse 233, Mother. It is explained that the father is obliged to cover the food and clothing of his children and wife.
The women who have given birth shall breastfeed their children for two full years, for whoever wishes to complete the breastfeeding, and the one born to him shall provide for them and clothe them with No soul is burdened with more than it can bear. No mother shall have sexual intercourse with her child, nor should a newborn have sexual intercourse with his child. The heir must do the same. ۚ If they want to separate, with their mutual consent and consultation, then there is no blame on them, even if you want to breastfeed them. Your children, there is no blame on you if you deliver what you do with kindness, and fear God and know that God is All-Seeing of what you do.
“Mothers should breastfeed their children for two full years, for those who want to complete breastfeeding. It is the father’s duty to provide for their food and clothing in an appropriate manner. A person is not burdened, except according to his ability. A mother should not be made to suffer because of her child and do not and the father is made to suffer because of his child. The heirs are also like that. If both of them want to wean (before two years) based on agreement and consultation between them, there is no sin on both of them. If you want to breastfeed your child (to someone else), there is no sin for you if you give payment in a proper way. Fear Allah and know that indeed Allah sees what you do.” (QS. al-Baqarah: 233).
4. Upholding Islamic values in the family
Based on the book The Role of Fathers in Raising Children written by Indra Mulyana, the goal of Muslim families is to become a happy family in the world. The way to do this is to instill gratitude as a pillar in the family.
Apart from that, Dad can also guide the family to apply the principle that what is done in this world is only temporary and is a preparation for achieving happiness in the afterlife. Get your family used to learning various sciences such as reading and studying the Koran and other Islamic sciences.
Fathers must guide the family to deepen various things by dialogue together. Including discussing how to live a truly happy life.
The father, who has a role as a leader, also plays an important role in upholding the vision of the Muslim family. That way, the atmosphere at home becomes safe, peaceful, and also the best place to love each other.
5. Be a good husband and father
Another role that a father must play is being a good husband and parent. He must give love to his wife and children, Mother.
Fathers must also be fair and must not show favoritism. To achieve this goal, Father and Mother still have to work together and work hand in hand in carrying out household duties.
Hopefully the information above can be useful, Mother.
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