#HiMother, I’m a working mother and have two sons. My husband and I have been married for 9 years. Before getting married, I was working, while my husband didn’t have a permanent job.
He is an entrepreneur with uncertain income or projects. Often, he cannot fulfill his obligations as a provider. At the beginning of our marriage, I still tolerated it.
At that time, my salary was still enough to support both of us. After having my first child, my needs were still met. My husband also started to get projects more often, although not necessarily.
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When our children started school, then the needs increased. Unfortunately, our income did not increase but instead decreased. My salary is just like that and my husband’s business almost went bankrupt because of the pandemic.
At that time, I was pregnant with my second child. During pregnancy, I didn’t experience any significant obstacles because I still had support from my parents or in-laws. But after giving birth, I experienced the baby blues.
Honestly, this is because my husband lacks support in taking care of the children and household matters. In addition, until now, he has not been able to provide a living that can meet the needs of our family. I even almost ended my life, but my husband still didn’t believe I was depressed.
Another problem that makes me even more stressed, my husband is even involved in loans or online loans. Several times I tried to cover his debts by borrowing here and there. But because there were still other needs, I stopped helping to pay off the debt.
Our lives began to become uneasy because many foreign numbers called. I always ignore some and I have to block some. Honestly, this problem makes me want to divorce. But, I thought about what children would do if they had to grow up without a father figure.
Because, I married a man who came from a broken home. He lacks love from his parents. So for now, I’m still holding on because I don’t want to hurt my extended family because of divorce.
I’m sure I can face this problem. I can only pray, hopefully my husband will get abundant sustenance so he can pay off his debts and be able to provide for his family properly.
-Mother A, Bogor-
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