Being a parent requires a learning process all the time, including practicing emotional control, Mom. If at any time you miss scolding or yelling at your child, what can be done to comfort him?
Yes, it is important for mothers to find ways to cheer up their children after being scolded. This is because the inner wounds that he feels when he is scolded can continue to leave an imprint if he is not immediately ‘recovered’.
In fact, it is not impossible that in the long term this can have an impact on the mentality of children. As quoted from Healthline, A recent study showed that being scolded by yelling can make children grow up to be more aggressive, both physically and verbally.
The reason, shouting in general is an expression of anger. These actions make children afraid and feel insecure. It is also proven that the long-term impact can trigger anxiety, low self-esteem, and increased aggression.
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When parents scold their children, how do you comfort them?
1. Give each other time to calm down
When emotions get out of control, it’s important for you to calm down for a moment. Likewise with the Little One. So after scolding the child, you should not come back immediately in a condition that is still angry.
There are several things you can do to calm yourself down, for example, sit down first and take a few deep breaths. You can also wash your face or drink water first.
2. Approach the child and talk
When you feel calmer, try to approach your child and talk to him. Do not force if the child still refuses, because he may still be a little disappointed.
Let the child calm down first and only then invite back to talk alone. Giving the child the opportunity to calm down is also an important step, a sign that the mother respects her decision. Thus quoted from Motherly.
3. Pay attention
Basically, children need attention and affection from parents. Especially if they’ve just been scolded. Therefore, don’t forget to pay attention to their needs, Mother.
For example, by offering children their favorite snacks or simply taking them outside to play. Affection has the ability to melt negative feelings instantly when given sincerely.
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